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Originally Posted by Gar23
I study under an 8th dan female instructor who I've known since I was about 8.
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Wow! An 8th Dan woman. Wild. I haven not heard of any women this senior in Kyokushin, What a privilege to train with her!
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Originally Posted by Gar23
This instructor while certainly a capable teacher has at a few times confided in me the difficulties and insecurities of being a female kyokushin artist.
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Oh yeah...nods and knowing smiles there....
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Originally Posted by Gar23
Well, of course, once they realized that "shihan" was a "she" in this situation i was barraged with the usual questions. "Is she hot?" "is she a homo?" "would she like it if I made a pass at her?" and others that are too disrespectful to Kyokushin to state.
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I don't think this is about respect to Kyokushin. This is about respect for women, full stop.
And Gary, no, a group of women would NOT talk that way about someone that a member of the group said was a personal friend and their teacher! It would be SICK.
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Am I wrong?
Should I have played along and prevented any escalation of the conflict knowing I was disrespecting a respected figure from my childhood? Or was I right in staying true to my spirit no matter what the cost was?
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Only you can actually answer this. It sounds to me like you have a bond with this instructor that means this kind of assault (verbally) caused a similar reaction in you to what you would experience if they made those kind of inappropriate comments about your mum or your sister. Which, if they were friends, they would not do.
I think you rock, but what I think doesn't matter. I think your instructor would be incredibly impressed and proud that you had the guts to do this. I know I would be!
